Anonymous asked: What do you think of MayMay?
I think they’re possibly dangerous, and definitely damaging to the cause of addressing abuse in kink communities.
They’ve completely contaminated the originally-okay idea of “tools for identifying possible abusers” by turning it into “tools for identifying possible abusers and people MayMay doesn’t like and some completely random people too.” And they’ve used very flimsy connections to possible abusers as an excuse to out kinksters without their consent.
They seem utterly unable to conceive of any reason a person would criticize them except for “is persecuting me because they are pro-abuse.” And most troublingly, there are numerous reports of them behaving abusively toward partners and exes, and they haven’t accounted for these except by claiming this is yet more persecution.
Sorry, but could there be some clarification here? Googling around that name doesn’t bring up anything that looks related to what you guys are talking about
This is MayMay’s blog.
They’ve gotten some positive press on Tumblr because they made “Predator Alert Tools” for dating websites. This press, however, neglects to mention that the tools are deeply flawed and sometimes privacy-violating; that MayMay themself has a long history of hostile, dishonest, and sometimes outright abusive behavior; and that they become threatening and aggressive with anyone who criticizes or refuses to promote their tools. One of the top posts on their blog right now is them telling someone—in great detail and apparently seriously—to kill themself.
I’m all for anti-abuse activism, but calling yourself an activist is not a “get out of accountability free” card, and it’s really disturbing the way MayMay has been using it as such.